You know that giddy feeling you get when someone compliments your good works? Yes, that is very important. Everyone should feel that from time to time. Working hard and not seeing your work being appreciated really does feel terrible.
We don’t have to give everyone an award for doing their job well. Sometimes, all it takes is a small token of appreciation. You could give them a pat on the back accompanied by “Good Job!” or maybe a cup of coffee. There are many ways in which you could appreciate someone.
I know that too much compliments may lead someone to think they are invincible. But no compliments at all will lead to despair and disappointments.
A comment or two may be just what the person needs to go on with their hard work on that day. These little encouragements will get them through their hardest days. It is a wonder how small encouragements moves people to accomplish great things.
So, go out there and be generous with your appreciation of others. Appreciation is very contagious, much like kindness. Who knows, it may come around back to you.
Perfection is a myth. There is nothing on earth that is perfect. So why do we let perfection rule our lives?
I used to and still am a perfectionist. I never do anything wihout being at least 65% sure that I have the knowledge and skills to do it. It is tough.
Through my experience, I realized that mistakes are supposed to be made sometimes. That is how we learn right from wrong. Trust me, I wish I had made more mistakes in the past.
Being afraid of mistakes can often rob me of many opportunities. I wouldn’t take that offer to sing on atage because I may make a fool of myself or maybe write that one story because no one will like it.
Therefore, I made it a point to try. I lowered that percentage to about 35% these days. It has done me well. I have broadened my horizons and done things that I thought I would fail at.
The trick is to accepting that mistakes are not there to hurt you. Mistakes are the best teachers you could ever ask for. So go out there and take a chance!
Sometimes I just want to fast forward life until the point where I am stable. That means a good job, a nice little (or huge) apartment, a pet and good nights sleep. Unfortunately, technology has not got there yet (for now). Therefore, I would have to get there just like everyone else.
The journey can sometimes seem very long and dry. The exciting times would fly by so fast but the boring ones feel like 100 years. So what do I do? Have fun!
If fun times fly by so fast, then I would have fun all the time. That ensures that time would fly by fast all the time. Then, when I get to the good parts (the future), all I need to do is just pause (someone please invent that feature!)
It is hard to make non-fun times fun. But there is a way. I usually just choose to have fun. I choose to meet new people, I choose to love what I do and I choose to put the element of fun in everything.
People say I am a happy all the time and look like I am having fun all the time. Truth is, I make that choice every morning when I get up. Repeat after me: “I choose to have fun today!” Make it a habit and it’ll stick to you. Good Luck!
Would you be friends with you?
If you met yourself on a subway or a park, would you say hi? What would be your first impression of you? Would you like yourself?
These are questions that I ask myself quite often. I sit down and imagine all these scenarios. It helps me evaluate myself better.
Once I find a part of myself that I do not like, I will try to change it. For example, I do not like that I always look down whenever I am outside. If I were to meet myself, I would think that I was unfriendly.
So, I started to change that habit. I constantly reminded myself to look forward. Soon enough, it becomes a habit.
Now, this is only if you want to. Listen to yourself. Be very sure of what you want or do not what. That, is how happiness is achieved.
Have you looked at yourself in the mirror? I don’t mean the 5 second “look, fix hair and run.” I mean the one where you take at least 10-15 minutes and look at yourself in the mirror.
It would be amazing if you can do this with your birthday suit on. Stand in front of a full length mirror (if you have one) and take a good look at your body. Touching, pinching, and caressing are optional.
Take the time to properly understand your body. Count how many moles you have, find out where your birthmark is, and feel how soft your skin is. You will be surprised at what you learn.
Give your body some love. Tell your body how much you love it. Say it out loud! “I love my thunder thighs because they are strong!” “I love my tummy rolls because they keep me warm!” “I love my big arms because they are quick to give lots of hugs!” Feel free to change them according to your own needs.
Do that as often as you need too. It is not too late to give yourself some love. Love is free, therefore, use it as much as you want to.
It is no surprise that I am overweight. I have been since puberty happened. Puberty was supposed to give me fat on my chest but apparently it got the wrong memo and deposited fat everywhere.
Therefore, my self-esteem has not been the greatest since then. It hurts when people keep insulting me about my fat situation. Yes, that included family, which hurt most.
One day, I decided that I needed to change something. My self-esteem needed a makeover. I needed to learn how to love myself, even if others do not.
It was very hard at first. Imagine it being hard looking at myself in the mirror, what more to love myself. But somehow, I figured out a way. Fake it till you make it!
I figured that if I faked it long enough for it to be a habit, it will eventually work. So, I did a couple of things.
I started posting pictures of myself that I thought were “unpretty!” Next, I started believing and accepting compliments from people instead of the usual “aww, no I am not.” Lastly, I wore clothes that I loved instead of ones that people made me wear to cover up my fats.
It took a long time before I started to believe that I was worth it. It is not easy, some days I wake up and feel worthless and ugly. But that is the point. This is a journey of self-love. It is a journey that I will encourage all to take.
When people tell me that I should not dress a certain way, my instinct is to ask them “who said?” Unfortunately, it does seem a little disrespectful to some. So, I nod my head, give a fake smile and walk away. Make no mistake, I definitely shouted it in my head for whoever in my head to hear.
The only exception to this is when there is a dress code. That is when I would gladly follow the rules, whatever they may be. The best is when I get to dress up for a special occasions.
But on a daily basis, I do have many people who come to me specifically to tell me how to dress myself. Sometimes, it does make me self-concious but other times, I wonder how my dressing affects them to the point that they have to give me a lecture about dressing.
I am NOT sorry that my exposed arms are making you uncomfortable. I am NOT sorry that my “fat” legs are making you angry (your eyes should be up here!) I am also NOT sorry that my belly rolls are making you feel like you need to leave the room. I am not sorry.
This is my body and only I have the right to choose what to wear. I won’t tell you how to dress no matter how badly your choices of clothing are. Until my dressing is a threat to your health and safety, keep your opinions to yourself.
To everyone else who struggle with this, you should not be sorry. You have every right to dress yourself however you want to! Do not let anyone tell you what you can or cannot wear. It is your body!