One Foot At A Time

Walking up a hill is tiring. At some point, your muscles will start to hurt. Usually, that is when we all stop and rest. 

What if I told you, that the best way to relief the pain, is to keep going? Continuing your joirney would mean that you will reach the top faster than you would if you rested. 

Which is better? Temporary relief or permanent relief? Though some would choose the temporary one (including me), it would be wiser and better to chose the latter. 

How do you do that? One foot in front of the other. Keep your eyes fixed on the prize. Keep your legs moving, like clockwork. That way, you will be able to make it to the top! 


I Choose To Have Fun Today!

Sometimes I just want to fast forward life until the point where I am stable. That means a good job, a nice little (or huge) apartment, a pet and good nights sleep. Unfortunately, technology has not got there yet (for now). Therefore, I would have to get there just like everyone else.

The journey can sometimes seem very long and dry. The exciting times would fly by so fast but the boring ones feel like 100 years. So what do I do? Have fun!

If fun times fly by so fast, then I would have fun all the time. That ensures that time would fly by fast all the time. Then, when I get to the good parts (the future), all I need to do is just pause (someone please invent that feature!)

It is hard to make non-fun times fun. But there is a way. I usually just choose to have fun. I choose to meet new people, I choose to love what I do and I choose to put the element of fun in everything.

People say I am a happy all the time and look like I am having fun all the time. Truth is, I make that choice every morning when I get up. Repeat after me: “I choose to have fun today!” Make it a habit and it’ll stick to you. Good Luck!

Mind Over Matter

One of my favorite pastime is daydreaming. Usually it is about how I would like the future to be. Other times, I am a warrior in a different universe fighting aliens. But, I am here to talk about the one about the future.

Envisioning the future is often seen as “counting your chickens before they hatch.” I see it as “being optimistic.”

Envisioning the future makes me aware of how much work I have to put in now to achieve the vision. It is like seeing your goal in 3D (with as many details as you would like).

Now, not all of my visions have come true. Although, some of it has. For example, I have been dreaming of coming to The United States of America for a long time. Finally, it happened.

Dreaming is about putting your mind there before your body. That way, your body won’t be far behind. Your mind will be leading your body towards your goal.

However, be careful. Sometimes, the mind can trick you into thinking that what is not real, is. So, exercise caution. Don’t get ahead of yourself. Use this to prepare yourself for the future and not to escape reality.

Look Back and Smile

Regrets are the worst things in the world. A life full of regrets is worst than death. Therefore, whenever you are faced with a decision, ask yourself this. “Would you look back and smile?”

Living life with no regrets is hard. We can’t see the future, therefore, we wouldn’t know if we would regret it or not. So here are a few ways to help you decide. 

First, is this a once in a lifetime opportunity? If yes, then maybe you should grab it because who knows, you may never get that chance again. 

Second, have you done it before? If not, you could try it. That way, if you don’t like it then you don’t have to do it anymore. 

Lastly, are there advantages? If the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, then you might want to think twice. If not, why not give it a go? 

The last thing we want is to have all these regrets when we are old. So, go out there and live life with no regrets! 

Do you like yourself?

Would you be friends with you? 
If you met yourself on a subway or a park, would you say hi? What would be your first impression of you? Would you like yourself? 
These are questions that I ask myself quite often. I sit down and imagine all these scenarios. It helps me evaluate myself better. 
Once I find a part of myself that I do not like, I will try to change it. For example, I do not like that I always look down whenever I am outside. If I were to meet myself, I would think that I was unfriendly. 
So, I started to change that habit. I constantly reminded myself to look forward. Soon enough, it becomes a habit. 
Now, this is only if you want to. Listen to yourself. Be very sure of what you want or do not what. That, is how happiness is achieved. 

Perfect Imperfections

Have you looked at yourself in the mirror? I don’t mean the 5 second “look, fix hair and run.” I mean the one where you take at least 10-15 minutes and look at yourself in the mirror.

It would be amazing if you can do this with your birthday suit on. Stand in front of a full length mirror (if you have one) and take a good look at your body. Touching, pinching, and caressing are optional.

Take the time to properly understand your body. Count how many moles you have, find out where your birthmark is, and feel how soft your skin is. You will be surprised at what you learn.

Give your body some love. Tell your body how much you love it. Say it out loud! “I love my thunder thighs because they are strong!” “I love my tummy rolls because they keep me warm!” “I love my big arms because they are quick to give lots of hugs!” Feel free to change them according to your own needs.

Do that as often as you need too. It is not too late to give yourself some love. Love is free, therefore, use it as much as you want to.

Fake It Till You Make It! 

It is no surprise that I am overweight. I have been since puberty happened. Puberty was supposed to give me fat on my chest but apparently it got the wrong memo and deposited fat everywhere. 

Therefore, my self-esteem has not been the greatest since then. It hurts when people keep insulting me about my fat situation. Yes, that included family, which hurt most. 

One day, I decided that I needed to change something. My self-esteem needed a makeover. I needed to learn how to love myself, even if others do not. 

It was very hard at first. Imagine it being hard looking at myself in the mirror, what more to love myself. But somehow, I figured out a way. Fake it till you make it! 

I figured that if I faked it long enough for it to be a habit, it will eventually work. So, I did a couple of things. 

I started posting pictures of myself that I thought were “unpretty!” Next, I started believing and accepting compliments from people instead of the usual “aww, no I am not.” Lastly, I wore clothes that I loved instead of ones that people made me wear to cover up my fats. 

It took a long time before I started to believe that I was worth it. It is not easy, some days I wake up and feel worthless and ugly. But that is the point. This is a journey of self-love. It is a journey that I will encourage all to take.